Giving gifts at big events is a nice gesture to show the hosts that you appreciate their efforts. Even if it is just a dinner party, bringing a nice bottle of wine or a bouquet of flowers is a great way to say thank you and contribute to the festivities. But what about weddings? Sure, it’s kind to bring a housewarming gift for the bride and groom, but is it expected? It shouldn’t be…but one bridezilla decided that she didn’t care about common courtesy. And paid a horrible price for her lack of tact!
She could hardly believe what her “friend” had said to her! “Coming for free?” It was a wedding!
Instead of continuing the argument, she wrote out a very detailed letter of exactly why they could no longer be friends. It is transcribed below the image.
Here is my card. Now, I did not go to your wedding for free… I sure hope that this helps you with our ‘bills’ …
I did not realize that I was a price tag to you at your wedding. I also did not realize that by not giving you a cash gift, you would feel as though I attended your wedding ‘for free’— I have known you for ten years now and I cannot believe that you would not just appreciate my sharing the biggest day of your life with you.l had actually managed to set cash aside for your gift but considering your tacky, hurtful and disgraceful comments earlier, I decided that this amount was more appropriate to give to you.
I have always remained loyal to you and I cannot believe that all you see when you look at me is a few more dollars. Here is an idea: if you cannot afford a wedding, then do not have one. If you cannot pay your bills by yourself, then do not bring a child in to this world, do not go on vacations and finally, do not dare make your friends/family feel financially responsible for your decisions/parties/extravagances. Even if I became a millionaire tomorrow, I would rather hop off a cliff than attend your baby shower but thank you for being so concerned for me, that you gave me the option of uninviting myself due to my current financial situation. Never mind that I was one of the first ones to find out about your pregnancy, never mind that I cried my eyes out when I saw your first sonogram and never mind that I’ve tried to remain a supportive, loving friend by keeping your secrets to myself.
I did not predict that I would be laid off last month, nor did I predict having to pay out of pocket for my schoolbooks and instead of being a supportive friend, you demanded more money out of me. I cannot believe that this is the person that you truly are — a greedy, self-centered and cruel woman. How dare you treat people like this? What is wrong with you? I am enraged, disgusted, hurt and embarrassed by you: so much so that I do not look at you. That is why I left this letter at your house instead. I do not want to hear from you again. This straw broke the camel’s back. I wish you well and I hope that this serves as a learning experience for you – you just lost a childhood friend because your eyes saw nothing but green.
Ps. According to Celebrity wedding planner Sharon Sacks, “weddings are a wonderful time to share with family and friends. The expense and the cost of the wedding is solely the responsibility of the bride, groom, and their families, and never the people who are attending. I think people give with their heart and do the best that they can. I would hope that any bride and groom would understand. There is no obligation of a guest to give a gift to a party to which they are invited, not even a wedding. Though not required, it is a very nice thing to do, but there is certainly no base guideline for what you should give AND finally, it’s certainly outrageous to question the amount, let alone the gift. There is a disgusting trend emerging where people are not only passing judgment about the gifts they receive, but they are verbalizing it. It’s classless and tacky.”
WOW! She took the words right out of my mouth! I almost want to save this letter…just in case I am ever treated this way after a wedding! Do you know anyone who has acted like this after a big event? This is right up there with sending a bill to guests who didn’t make it to the reception! It’s disgusting.
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