Constance Hall was having a conversation with a friend (who also happened to be a child psychologist) when they suddenly blurted out the last thing she expected to hear:
You’re such a good mum.”
She was stunned…and confused. She didn’t feel like a “good mum.” She couldn’t keep quiet about her disagreement, but what her friend explained next has thousands of parents stunned.
I don’t feel like a good mum. The kids are driving me so crazy, I’m losing my temper and falling asleep at night wondering where I’m going to get the patience for another day.”
But then, her friend said something incredible.
Babies cry, it’s how they communicate. Toddlers scream, children whinge and teenagers complain.’
She continued, ‘Then mums say the words for *** sake under their breath before responding. It’s how we communicate. But guess what, Con? It’s better then silence. A house full of screaming kids and fighting teenagers and a parent who’s being thrown every question and request is a healthy one to me. It’s the silent children, the scared toddlers, the teenagers that don’t come home and the parents who aren’t in communication with their children that I worry about. And kids don’t drive you crazy, you were crazy already. That’s why you had them.’
And just like that, I felt like a good parent again.
Deep breaths, you’re doing a good job.”
Other parents chimed in to agree – their kids scream and holler and let go of their emotions at home because they feel safe enough to do so. “It’s a madhouse at my place,” one mom said. But even though it feels like you’ve lost control, they said, it’s a good sign when they ask you a million questions and run to you when they just want to cry. The revelation went viral, and we can see why.
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