The people who have been in long-term relationships can probably relate to this. After a while, you just get comfortable with each other. Deciding where to go out to eat for dinner takes no time at all because you’ll probably just end up at your favorite Italian place anyway. After a while, things just become routine. Is it Friday? After the kids go to bed we might crack open a bottle of wine and watch old movies until we fall asleep, but that’s about as close to “spontaneous” as it can get sometimes with a budget and a busy shedule. It’s not a bad thing, but this guy just decided that enough was enough!
I have a confession to make. I’m dating someone even though I’m married.
She’s an incredible girl. She’s beautiful, smart, cunning, strong, and has an immensely strong faith in God. I love to take her out to dinner, movies, local shows, and always tell her how beautiful she is. I can’t remember the last time I was mad at her for longer than five minutes, and her smile always seems to brighten up my day no matter the circumstances.
Sometimes she will visit me at work unannounced, make me an incredible lunch, or even surprise me with something she personally baked. I can’t believe how lucky I am to be dating someone even though I am married. I encourage you to try it and see what it can do for your life.
Oh! Did I mention the woman I am dating is my wife? What did you expect?
I need to continue to date my wife even after I marry her. Pursuing my wife shouldn’t stop just because we both said, “I do.” Way too many times do I see relationships stop growing because people stop taking the initiative to pursue one another.
Dating is a time where you get to learn about someone in a special and unique way. Why would you want that to ever stop? It shouldn’t. Those butterflies you got on the first date shouldn’t stop just because the years have passed. Wake up each day and pursue your spouse as if you are still on your first few dates. You will see a drastic change for the better in your relationship.
When it comes to any relationship, communication and the action of constant pursuit is key. Nobody wants to be with someone who doesn’t want to pursue them whole-heartedly.
I encourage you to date your spouse, pursue them whole-heartedly, and understand that dating shouldn’t end just because you said, “I do.”
– Jarrid Wilson
Who else loves this? Being in a long-term relationship or marriage shouldn’t mean that life should suddenly become routine. It’s easy to only stick to your routine and fall into a comfortable pattern. Decide to do something special for your partner! Even if it’s as small a thing as picking up their favorite ice cream on the way home from work! It takes effort to keep the “spark” alive, and even the tiniest gestures can have a huge impact!
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