When parents get divorced, sometimes it can get extremely messy. Feelings are raw on both sides and it can lead to everyone saying and doing things that they normally wouldn’t. When there are children involved, it can get even messier. When parents start competing with each other, the focus can shift from what is best for the child to who is the “better” parent. This kid saw right through all of it, and his story is amazing.
I come from both backgrounds. Father has an 8-figure income, compared to my mother working on $26,000 a year. They divorced, and my mother got custody.
Most of my childhood was spent living on a crazy budget. I was a simple, white, video game playing nerd growing up. At my mothers, she could only afford one game and system for me (around 6 years old). Thankfully, that was enough to keep me occupied for a few years. I eventually got a PC and was able to buy cheaper games online rather than on a console.
Over the weekends (every other one) I went over to my dads. Because of the rivalry with my mother (aka, “who’s the better parent”), my father would ask me for a list of games or anything else I wanted, and in 2 weeks it would be there.
When I was 17 (i never asked for anything over $80, maybe a really good fishing tackle box, but that’s about it) I asked for a jet ski. Fast forward 2 weeks, and there’s a $15,000 jet ski in his backyard (he lived on the water).
The best thing about being rich is the comfort, convenience, and general happiness.
The worst part? It’s not true happiness. True happiness is feeling loved.
2 years ago, my mother made me a bank account linked to her name. Whenever something happened with her account (deposit, etc), I’d get an email.
When I was 16, I asked for an upgrade to my computer. My planned upgrades were around $600, and I said I’d help around the house and get a job myself (which I did) to pay her back.
Next day? I get 2 emails. One is a notification of a $1500 purchase and the next one saying that the account has gone in the negative. -1350 on the account.
I never told her that I knew, and I’m happy that I haven’t. Saying “I love you, and would do anything for you” is one thing, but doing it is another.
Since paying off that payment (took me 3 months), my mother got Graves disease (among other things), and had to stop working.
Even though I’m in college, I go back once a month (5 hour train ride) to help her clean the house, cook, shop, etc. I pay for most of it too.
No game system, jet ski, boat, smart tv, etc. my dad could buy for me could EVER even compare to my mother.
Money isn’t the most important thing in life. Sure, it helps. Not having to worry about how you will pay the bills, buy the things that your kids need, or where your next meal will come from can dramatically increase your quality of life…but this dad just didn’t get it. He had everything, but he didn’t truly have the love of his son. How could he, when he only focused on the THINGS he could buy, and not the TIME he could spend? This kid nails it, and I’m glad that he grew up and realized how much of a sacrifice his mother made for him in the face of hardship.
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