The parents of special needs children are incredible. They deal with so much on a daily basis that the rest of us probably don’t even think to think about – all for the sake of their child. The struggle to help a child fit in with others and learn how to interact with the people around them can seem impossible at times. For one mom, this is especially apparent whenever her child gets invited to parties of any kind because she is usually forced to refuse. And then one day, she receives an amazing letter from another mom in her son’s class…and can’t help but write a letter of her own!
“Dear (Super Cool) Mom,
You don’t know me and I don’t know you, but my son, Timothy, sometimes sits beside your son at school.
Timothy has severe autism spectrum disorder. He is also a 7-year-old little boy who loves and plays with all of his heart. He needs a lot of extra help at school and sometimes seems just plain oblivious to what’s happening right underneath his nose.
He wants friends but sometimes doesn’t know how to make them.
He wants to play but sometimes doesn’t know how to ask.
He wants to be included but sometimes doesn’t know how.
We parents of children with special needs know only too well the hurt our kids feel when they are left out of the social gatherings.
Organized sports, play dates, sleepovers and yes, the dreaded birthday parties.
I can say wholeheartedly that my son has not attended a single one. We have received countless invitations in the past few years, but mostly by kids who mercilessly invite the entire class. Don’t get me wrong, I am grateful.
But I wonder if the parents know what would happen if I brought Timothy? The interruptions, the meltdowns. How I would hate to take the spotlight from the birthday child.
So we politely decline. Every single one.
Until your invitation arrived in the mail with a special note. It read:
Carter sat beside Timothy at school and he always talks about him. I really hope he can come. We are renting a bounce castle that we can attach a small bounce slide at the bottom. We will also have water balloon’s and water guns. Maybe Timothy can come earlier in the day if it would be too much with the whole class. Let me know how we can make it work.”
‘Carter sat beside Timothy at school and he always talks about him. I really hope he can come. We are renting a bounce castle that we can attach a small bounce slide at the bottom. We will also have water balloon’s and water guns. Maybe Timothy can come earlier in the day if it would be too much with the whole class. Let me know how we can make it work.’
You wrote exactly what I needed to see that day and didn’t even know it.
Because of your son he is included.
Because of your son he feels wanted.
Because of your son he has a voice.
And I want you to know that because of you I can get through another day.
Because of you I can get through another appointment.
Because of you I can take more stares and more questions.
Because of you I have hope for Timothy’s future.
I just wanted to tell you what a fantastic job you are doing with your son.
This mom will be RSVPing a hell yes for the first time ever. And I can’t wait.
Timothy’s very grateful Mom”
Things like this restore our faith in humanity! This other mom doesn’t fully understand what Timothy has to go through, but she tried her best. She offered options for him – she took the time out of her schedule to make room for her son’s friend at school. She wanted her to know that she was willing to make the accommodations…even if it meant taking time before the party to do so! This gesture is incredibly sweet! What an awesome story!
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