Taylor Myers knew that shopping for groceries would be a stressful event, but when a stranger had the gall to make a heartless (and rude) comment, she lost her cool.
Her daughter, Sophie, has ADHD and often has trouble concentrating when they happen to be in a store and surrounded by thousands and thousands of brightly color items. Usually, Myers is able to “weather the storm,” but when a woman in line shouts something cruel at her, she reached the end of her patience.
Sophie sat/stood/did heads stands in the cart, whining over a bag of chips I took away and because she called me a butthole in line. Her ADHD and obsessive little heart gets on these subjects of things she finds unjust and wrong and it doesn’t stop until she eventually falls asleep or something very dramatic happens to snatch the attention off the obsessed about subject.
We stood in line for several minutes, me ignoring her whining and refusing to give in. What’s giving in to bad behavior going to do but reinforce the bad behavior? I’ve walked out of stores hundreds of times because of her. Almost every time, actually, I end up leaving with nothing I came for and a tantrum having four year attached to my hand and a baby on my hip, but this time I had to stick it out to get the groceries.
I tell her for the tenth time to sit down so she doesn’t fall and the next thing I hear is a woman behind me in line saying “oh, for Christ’s sake give her a cookie so she’ll shut up!”
I could’ve responded in a nicer way.
I could’ve explained to her that my four year old has pretty severe ADHD, I raise both my children alone, I’m doing my best, and had no choice but to wait it out for the groceries.
Instead, I heard “she’s four years old and you need to mind your own f***ing business” come out of my mouth.”
Myers leaves the line and decides to use the self-check out counter instead. It would take longer, but enough was enough. As she began to cry out of anger and frustration, scanning her groceries, a stranger walks up and starts a conversation with Sophie. The woman asked questions to distract the child. When Sophie complains about the chips, the woman redirects the conversation with ease, distracting the girl and giving mom a chance to finish her purchase.
You never know the problems a child has that causes them to misbehave and unless you know the struggle of being a parent to a child like mine, you cannot judge me. But It also takes one small act of kindness to make a mama feel comfort and validation. Thank you to the woman in Walmart today, for showing that kindness to my children and I. Thank you for walking us out. Thank you for backing me up. Mamas have to stick together.” Myers finishes.
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