Gylisa Jayne is incredibly proud of her 2-year-old daughter, Lily. Two years of being a devoted mom, meeting her daughter’s every need, and ensuring that the child was growing up in a happy, healthy environment was a huge sacrifice. Sleepless nights, challenging days, and an endless cycle of caring and loving her daughter was somehow “not enough” when someone decided to tell her something that shook her in an unexpected way.
I didn’t think you were the type to be a mom,” they told her.
At first, she tried to shrug it off…but it stuck with her even days later. People label mothers with a stereotype that just doesn’t fit in with today’s society, and Jayne decided to get it off of her chest as a late response to the insulting comment.
A ‘Mother’ has to live up to a certain standard, and it isn’t just taking care of your own kid…
‘Mothers’ are meant to sacrifice every aspect of themselves, to fulfill their role,
‘Mothers’ aren’t meant to have had a colorful life of experiences before they bear children, they are expected to forget their identity to raise someone else…”
But how can we raise our children effectively if we haven’t experienced a bit of life beforehand ?
Without navigating my own chequered past how could I possibly hope to guide a new soul through similar times ?
When we become mothers, it isn’t because we are just dying to wipe someone else’s bum.
It’s because we want to add to our lives, and watch someone else grow.
It might be because after everything we have been through, we have finally found some stability – and having a family of our own helps us feel grounded.
Motherhood isn’t an exclusive club that you can only get into if you look or act the right way.
It’s full of women that all have lives and tales and colorful histories.
Women of every type, from every background and every descent.
Women that swear, women that don’t, women that are real, and women that don’t give a f*ck about what you think….
So I might not fit someone else’s expectations of how I should be, but my daughter reckons I’m doing a pretty good job.”
She wants every mother that reads her story to know that becoming a mother doesn’t mean losing a part of yourself – it means gaining something new, and to do the things that are right for their families, not for someone else’s idea of what it should be.
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